There are ups and downs in life that just have to be dealt with. While we all go through tough personal times, the one issue that most will face, but is not discussed, is the decision to put a parent in a home.
The statistics show something very clear. We are all living longer. Modern healthcare has advanced to the point where we can all live for years and years. Unfortunately, this has resulted in long term care issues that many families are in turmoil over.
Whatever your feeling towards your mom and dad, there is no doubt they fed and clothed you when you were a child. Now you are in somewhat of a similar position. You are making the serious decision regarding their life.
With age comes the need for assistance. Your parents are no different. They are going to need help. Are you going to do it? Are you going to put them in a facility that will handle it? What kind of burden are you willing to take on?
The answers to these questions are not easy. In fact, they are an emotional trap. You will have feelings ranging from guilt for considering putting a parent in a home to anger for having to foot the bill and so on. This is all natural, but no less easy to deal with.
At first glance, many people consider bringing their parents home to care for them. This is noble and makes sense emotionally since they, of course, cared for you. This is a huge burden, however, which can lead to emotional and financial stress.
You can always try to start off by bringing a parent to live with you. If you can swing it with a minimum of fuss, you are in good shape. If not, you can put them in a home. If they have dementia, however, a home is the best choice immediately.
Whether Parkinson or Alzheimer, dementia is a brutal illness. Seeing your vibrant parents fade away is one of the hardest things you will experience. Realizing they can no longer recognize you will be one of your toughest days.
Dementia turns your parents into children with similar needs. The wear and tear of watching them fade away is simple too much to take for any normal person. Get professional help. Put them in a home with dementia care.
Overall, placing parents in professional elder care facilities is a smart decision. There are a variety of options, so they can get the care they need. They will also be surrounded by other seniors.
Putting a parent in a home can create huge feelings of guilt. Do not let this happen. You have a life of your own. Your parents will be fine and being surrounded by other seniors will lead to new friends.