Looking back on the first date, let's backstep and see if chances are good that there will be a second date with this woman you've just been out with. All things considered, it seemed to go pretty well, although it was difficult to read her emotions. A first date is when we make our first impressions, presenting ourself to the other party for assessment, deciphering their interest in us, and determining if a second date is feasible. Since I conducted myself well, maybe the possibility of having a second date with her is more realistic than I had thought.
In preparing to make a follow-up call, it is a very good useful idea to look at what you did on the first date, and recall what things you liked about each event that you shared. Writing down this information is a good thing to do. One way to show interest in your date is by recalling specific things of the date you shared together already.
Before making the follow-up call, activities to boost your confidence are always a plus, as long as not taken too far beyond confidence and itno cockiness, which is definitely not a turn-on for women. Exercise, talking with a good friend, some strenuous activity to raise adrenline are all good ideas for making you feel good about yourself, thus enabling you to dial the number on a positive note.
Pick up the phone and go for it! Choosing to identify who you are promptly will lessen any potential confusion as to whom she is speaking with, and keep your self-confidence intact. Talk about her and her day, and how she has been since the first date with you. It's a known fact that we all like to be the center of attention, we all like to know there is someone interested in our well-being. Be sure to show interest by asking questions, but not so many that you seem to be prying. Women like men who know how to listen, and seem interested enough to ask questions.
Now for the fun part! Ask her what her plans are several days from now. Try to give enough time for her to prepare for the date. Women prefer to pick out their attire days in advance so they can make changes as they see fit. If she says she has no plans, simply ask her if she'd like to go out with you again. Don't say, \"second date\". Those words may be too official for her, and scare away. \"Going out\", is a much more casual way to ask. If she has plans, state what the purpose of the call is. Tell her that you had a lot of fun when you went out, and you're wondering if she'd like to go out with you sometime. Make sure, you ask in a very casual manner.
If she said \"yes\", that fantastic! However, she may not have given the answer you were hoping for. In that case, decide if you really want to go out with this particular person again, and if you do, tell her you'd like to see her again when she has some free time. Give her your number and tell her if she'd like to do that, to give you a call when she's available. Chances are, she may wait until she feels in charge of the situation to go out with you again. Or, maybe there won't be a call at anytime. Whatever happens, go on with your life! Do not sat waiting by the phone for a call that may never come, or stop living your life.
If she didn't sound that interested, or time passes and there is no call, it's okay. Begin again. Think about your conduct on that first date. What were you wearing? Were there any uncomfortable moments? If you did everything right as far as you know, and still there is no second date in sight, then move on. Maybe life just has someone else better suited for you in the future. Use the experience of this passed first date to perfect your next first date. Learn from it and go forward. Give it another shot with someone else.
Lastly, be sure to be yourself. People like people. Trying to be someone you are not, will only land you in trouble down the road. Be kind. Be courteous. Be a good listener. Be involved. Be spontaneous! If you can follow these simple directions, i'm sure that second date will be a piece of cake.